Architecture of Healing: The Process of Becoming Whole
Going through and recovering from something extreme can be a traumatising experience, but when the darkness passes, you too need to recover with resilience. Often, it's easier said than done, but legends are those who manage to unite both words and actions. Resilience is the power to recover quickly from any damage that has been done, with minimal time and less harm. Alright, the question arises: if it's so hard, why put so much effort into it? Yes, indeed, it's hard, but often life gives us the chance to prove that we can be even tougher than it.
What is life if not fulfilled with a purpose? And this comes with small exposures, time, and experiences — the three fundamental parameters that form the foundation of basic training for building resilience. The more resilient you are, the more powerful you become in certain circumstances of your life, and the more likely you are to live a healthy, happy life. Resilience does not build on its own. It has to be built through certain investments, and that comes with the willpower to do so.
Often, new chapters of life come in the form of packages that have their own perks and shortcomings. But what to expect next from life after overcoming—or more precisely, reading—one chapter is the core investment of our energy in fulfilling our life’s purpose. Life is not promised to always be exciting, and the sooner we learn this fact, the more peaceful and satisfied we become with whatever we possess so far.
Everything starts with our thoughts. If you ever thought of becoming an elite performer, you need to keep thinking about it until that thought begins to reflect in your daily practices. Soon, those practices will lead you to align with more and more actions, and sooner or later, the outcomes of those actions will start making you feel satisfied, accomplished, or whatever you choose to call it. The general thought about healing should be that it's a process, not something that happens overnight, but something that takes its own time to adjust properly and align itself with its proper requirements. Often, expecting it hastily will only lead to your own disappointment. But yes, keeping the thought in mind that it is a process — and like all other processes, it is also designed in steps — you shall pass through it step by step, and soon you shall accomplish whatever you hope for. Healing is a process, and it takes time. During the course, you're not expected to heal fully, but you will go through various situations where even the simplest problems may feel threatening. You might take professional difficulties personally, and sometimes you may feel lost or exhausted simply because you're focusing so much energy on resolving internal issues, and then something external hits you so hard that the healing process becomes even more difficult to handle, let alone talk about, analyse, or solve. But this is not a situation to be taken with overwhelm, but one to be addressed with courage, intelligence, and the calmness of your mind. Yes, nobody can promise to always remain calm or have positive thoughts in every situation, but it's still okay — you can work through them on your own.
During the process of healing, you may feel reckless, broken, and shattered — but let me remind you, new pieces are built by reconstructing the old ones. And breaking the older pieces often takes energy — things may look distorted and disturbed — but they can be rearranged again with time, effort, and an investment in self-care. Healing is not about returning to who you were, but about patiently rebuilding yourself into someone even stronger, piece by piece.
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